Is Corn Brain Food?

Is Corn Brain Food?
Is Coney Island corn-on-the-cob brain food? Dunno, but I DO know that all original content herein is copyrighted by Vincent Collazo. Namaste.

Thursday, October 25, 2018

Why I’m Vincent: the Memo

(originally published on Facebook July 1, 2018)
I have preferred that people call me Vincent since 2011, but I find that some of you have continued to call me Vinny. I’ve thought to myself, Wow, it’s like they haven’t gotten the memo. And then I recently realized: I’ve never actually “sent” the memo. Some of you I’ve told, some I’ve give my rationale for changing my name, and some of you have no idea this change has taken place. So, as I’m about to be married and will see so many of you who are used to referring to me by my former name, I think it’s a good time to rectify (and create) the record. So here it is, the official request and explanation for why I wish you to call me Vincent.
After Heather died in 2010 I felt as if I had entered a new world. I began the process of reinventing myself, and changing how I interacted with people. I wanted to demarcate this new portion of my life with something concrete. Not that I desired to forget Heather (which I couldn’t do in any fashion even if I tried) but just to acknowledge that one part of my life was over and another had begun. One way I thought of doing this was by changing my name. I toyed with taking a new last name, but then Rebecca, my girlfriend at the time, began calling me “Vincent” because she’d seen that on my business card, and I liked the sound of it. I’ve always gone by Vincent as an author and in the business world, and I realized that I only needed to “change” my name to, well, my actual given name. And this would only be a small adjustment to folks in my family and social circles, compared with changing my last name to Colossus, e.g., which I considered for a hot second. Ironically, at the beginning of our relationship Heather had wanted to call me Vincent but I resisted and she desisted.
It is not a casual thing, this “new” name of mine. When people call me by my former name I actually become pained—it doesn’t feel right, it is a harkening back to a time that is gone, and I feel momentarily stymied, as if I’m being dragged into the past. This is not, I want to again emphasize, that I wish to rid myself of the memory of my time with Heather; I actually spend a great deal of time thinking about her and all that I shared and learned with her, and I write about it fairly intensely. But I also (and mostly) exist in the moment, and here in the present I am decidedly Vincent. I know this change will sadden many of my cousins who were so tickled to introduce me or otherwise refer to me as “My Cousin Vinny.” Ok, you’ve had the laugh for more than twenty-five years, which is a pretty good run for that shtik. It’s enough already. Of course I realize that you might slip up and still call me by my former nickname, and it’s okay if you forget here and there, I’m not holding anyone’s feet to the fire; I’ll be satisfied as long as you make the effort to remember and respect the fact that I am now Vincent.
End of memo.


Friday, April 20, 2018

The Triumph of Talent

(This review originally published by Munster Records, for press release) 
More than four decades after its original release, a minor album by an obscure artist from the Vanguard catalog is finally reissued on vinyl (by Munster Records). There are recordings on the Vanguard label by more famous artists than Marc Jonson, and discs that far outsold “Years” – but this collection has stood the test of time on its head, sounding more relevant today than when it was first pressed in 1972.

The maturity of these songs – both musically and lyrically – belie the youth of their writer/composer/performer/producer. Were this just a story about a wunderkind who’d gone unnoticed in his time, that would be interesting and satisfying enough, but “Years” is not only a stunning debut, but a harbinger of the promise of a young artist one would hope to follow for years to come – promise that was ultimately fulfilled by his subsequent albums, “Twelve In A Room” and “Last Night On The Rollercoaster” among others.

‘Rainy Dues’ kicks off “Years” with the tersely honest statement: “I don’t like some things I see” and proceeds to expound on that and other thoughts and feelings with a series of observations and claims about a relationship whose literal nature is nebulous but whose emotional reality is dense with longing and loss, and a tinge of hope sprinkled onto a platter of despair. The album’s second song, ‘Mary’, is a companion piece, a musical sequel to the opener, which treats us to wonderful lyrics as well as powerfully evocative singing.

I confess that the meaning of ‘Mother Jane’ remains a mystery to me after 30-plus years of listening, but I don’t need to understand it to enjoy it – the pondering is a prize in itself and keeps me coming back for more. Side one ends with ‘Fly’ – an existential lament depicting alienation from others and self. Listen for the additional voices coming in near the end of the song on the word “fly” with a simultaneous harp flourish: gorgeous.

‘A Long Song’ is the metaphoric and literal centerpiece of the album, falling precisely at the midway point. It’s sweet and tender, with a narrator sure of himself. The brief ‘Autopsy’ at 1:38 is the shortest song on “Years”, but its five lines, sung twice, carry a hefty poignancy with a melancholic tune. ‘Return To The Relief’, a personal favorite, is a lyrical and musical adventure. The carnival ride of this song finishes with a musical reference to Jackie DeShannon’s 1969 popular single ‘Put A Little Love in Your Heart’ – Jonson simply sings the title of DeShannon’s hit over and over, with a great deal more urgency present than in the original; it’s as if the singer knows that he has the answer to the world’s problems and is bound to tell us that we must do this thing immediately to save ourselves.

‘Munich’ is the only song on the album which feels “dated” in any way – strictly speaking it isn’t “listenable” to the modern ear, but with this track we get a glimpse into the era it came out of – one can hear the influence of ‘Revolution 9’ from The Beatles’ “White Album”. 1972 was a time rife with experimentation on all levels, and ‘Munich’ is a representation from that period. The title could obliquely refer to the hostage taking at the 1972 Olympics in Munich, Germany – the havoc of that event mirrored by the fragmented song.

The final track on the album is ‘The Tredmill’, which features a constrained and dulcet voice singing in front of a muted piano, interpolated with occasional drum. A visual vignette is described: a scene from a summer outing, a brief meeting immortalized in song. A hopeful, if sorrow-tinged, note on which to end.

To see Marc Jonson perform live is to marvel at the amount of aural ambiance he can create in a room with just his voice and guitar. To then listen to his studio work is to know you are in the presence of genius. In “Years” we can hear the beginnings of a young artist learning his craft at the highest level – in a professional recording studio for the first time, Marc Jonson deftly inserts brilliant production values to songs already possessing beautiful melodies and poetic lyricism. This is why RCA Records wanted to hire him as a performer and producer when he walked in off the street with a demo tape at the age of 20.

Marc Jonson once said that the reason he named the album “Years” was because as he labored in the studio it seemed to be taking years to complete. But in listening to this ensemble of songs one can feel the evolution of time added to consciousness from which wisdom emerges. This album is a gift to the ages from an artist who was just coming of age.

Sunday, September 10, 2017

Eclipso (1997 - 2015)

(Originally published on Facebook November 29, 2015)

Dear Ones,
I want to let everyone know that this past Friday my dog Eclipso died as a result of an undetermined cancer. Eclipso had just turned 18 and enjoyed, I hope, a good life as well as a lengthy one. Heather and I found her in a garbage ditch while staying at a bed & breakfast in Ceiba, Puerto Rico--and she never quite gave up her penchant for eating garbage. (As a puppy she especially liked used chewing gum and cigarette filters!) She was born without a tail and was such an unusual-looking and striking dog that on more than one occasion someone stopped their car to shout out: “What kind of dog is that?!” We could hardly walk around the block without being asked this question; the truth was that she was some sort of mix, but people wanted a better answer so Heather and I invented a breed: the tail-less East Caribbean Garbagi [pronounced Gar-BAH-zhee]. Such a lofty name deserved a back story so we gave her that too; this “breed” was originally bred to sniff out errant unexploded bombs from U.S. Navy training missions in Vieques. It was a wicked lie, which most people accepted with a nod, and some would say knowingly, “Oh, a Garbagi.” When one guy said flat out to me, “That’s not a breed” I quickly retorted, “Well it’s not officially recognized by the American Kennel Club but we’re hoping the paperwork will get through this year, so keep your fingers crossed.”
At the Dome, in Connecticut

Eclipso’s best friend was my other dog, Vanya, and she played plentifully with Heather’s cat José. She’d follow Heather around our apartment throughout the day and knew her as “Mommy” as that’s what I would tell Eclipso she was called, as in “Here’s Mommy!” and “Go to Mommy,” etc. But because Heather didn’t reciprocate by telling Eclipso I was “Daddy,” I remained nameless to my dog. I think she thought of me as some canine version of “that guy”--that guy who took her on walks, made her food, took her (yikes!) to the vet, and otherwise cared for her. Eventually, she and I were the only two left from our original family of five, and she kept an extra-sharp eye on me, always expecting me (I imagine) to abandon her, or disappear. In the past year when I was brushing my teeth at night, Eclipso would come from her bed into the bathroom to make sure I was still there, and then, satisfied, would return to bed. Sometimes she’d check on me two or three times until I finished my dental hygiene.

Eclipso, age 15, at the top of High Tor

The past year was a tough one for her as her arthritic back legs wouldn’t hold her up very well, (despite glucosamine sulfate with MSM, Chinese herbs, acupuncture, rimadyl, etc.) but she improved once the summer humidity abated and she was walking fairly well around the block up until the day before she died. When she was 16½ she went on a 2-3 hour hike to Leatherman’s Cave in Ward Pound Ridge Reservation, New York, holding her own with the six humans accompanying her. This past Thanksgiving morning Eclipso had the rally which so often occurs prior to the end of a life. She was up and walking and greeted my brother and father, hung out in the kitchen while Julia, her mother Bonnie and I cooked, mooching and getting in the way, as she always had. It was wondrous--lasted about 7-8 hours before she again began to decline. She died in our home at 2:35 the following afternoon, five minutes before her scheduled vet appointment, which I had finally decided to use as an opportunity to euthanize my darling dog. But she was able to die on her own, before we could leave for the vet, and while it was difficult, I was relieved not to have to follow through with the horrific choice to take her life, and grateful that Julia and I were present at the moment of Eclipso’s death, along with her vet, Rebecca Stronger, who joined us by phone.

In 2003, after Vanya died, (also at home and on her own, without euthanasia) Eclipso was despondent. When I fed her breakfast Eclipso looked up at me as if something was amiss and made no move toward her food; I knew something was wrong because, unless she was tremendously sick, Eclipso never turned down a morsel, much less a meal. I was puzzled for a long minute but I finally figured it out.
Eclipso & Vanya, circa 2000
Eclipso was used to having Vanya on her left when she ate--so I picked up her bowl and put it in Vanya’s place and Eclipso then chowed down as usual. Heather said, “Wow. Now we know how to honor the dead: by taking their place.” I have tried, since Heather died, in some small ways, to take her place, though I fear I’ve fallen far short of the mark. Now I must find some manner to fill Eclipso’s paw prints, though I am currently at a loss as to what that will look like.

When Julia first met Eclipso four years ago she thought to herself, Oh, this dog doesn’t
Chillin' in Greenwich, CT
have very long to live. She was wrong, as Eclipso eclipsed her expectations and wormed her way into Julia’s heart. Eclipso would mooch at the table from Julia, but though she wouldn’t give her any food, Eclipso persisted.

“Why does she keep asking me for food--I never giver her anything.”

I responded, “She knows what she’s doing.”

Eventually Julia broke down and became Eclipso’s Chief Advocate for Extra Food. Because of her sensitive digestion I had to limit what Eclipso ate. “But can’t she have a little egg?” Julia would ask me.

“Yes, that’s fine.”

“Didn’t you want to let her lick your cereal bowl scraps?”

Julia worked for Eclipso.

It’s fitting that Eclipso died on Thanksgiving weekend--a reminder to me of how thankful I am to have had her in my life. Our time together spanned the very beginning of my relationship with Heather, Heather’s illness and subsequent death, and the start of what I hope to be a lifelong relationship with Julia, who immediately received the Eclipso Good Vibe Person Seal of Approval. She was a weird little dog, who was a holy terror as a pup and a sweet tolerant elder dog--and lots else between the extremes. She will be in my heart for as long as it beats, in my mind as long as it remembers and in my soul for as long as spirit survives. Thanks Eclipso, for being Eclipso--no one could have done it better.

ALIASES: Clipper, Clipso, Clippy, Clipso-Facto, Clipper-Dip, Dippersmith, Clip, Tip-Tap, Dances for Food (her Native American name), Your Little Friend

All photos by Julia Fischer (except Eclipso & Vanya, by Vincent Collazo)

Stealing another dog's bed

Saturday, February 25, 2017

Instant Nostalgia

A week or so before Trump's inauguration, Julia and I were talking about our sense of impending doom. I said Obama must be thinking, "You are gonna miss my gov'in'," singing it playfully, to the tune of the ever-popular Lou Rawls song. Julia laughed and said, "You know, if you took about five minutes and wrote that whole song up it could go viral."

I never believed that it would go viral, but the idea of doing the project captivated me. Well, I ended up working on it a little longer than five minutes. It would have been nice to have it out just before Trump's inauguration, or even during that first weekend of his nascent presidency, but while the writing of the song was done in a day, the technical aspects of getting it recorded had me bogged down. The major difficulty was that I'm not Lou Rawls, and the song wasn't in a key that's good for me. Although Julia got me an app that would change the music file I was using to a key that was more comfortable for my voice, I didn't like losing the richness that I thought the slightly lower register gave to the song, so I struggled to make the best of it, and used a couple of clunky work-arounds to get it to what I think is a listenable state. During this time there were two weekends we were out of town, during which I couldn't work on the recording or video.

As the early days of the new administration unfolded, I began to feel at once more determined to make the video and also more irrelevant. Shouldn't I be protesting instead? Making phone calls? Sending emails, signing petitions? I have done and did do some of this, but it isn't my way or forte. I'm a writer and sometime performer, so I persisted, even as what I was doing seemed to be mawkish nostalgia. Is it possible, I wondered, to be nostalgic for something that one is bereft of for only a matter of weeks? In fact I'd been missing Obama's administration even before the new one came in. I puzzled over this until I remembered Paul Krassner, famous for founding the satiric magazine, The Realist, had a one-person show that I saw at the Village Gate, entitled "Nostalgia for the Future." So I was well within bounds!

Finally the video is finished and I feel satisfied with the result, justified in making it, and gratified by the response. Please watch.

YOU'RE GONNA MISS MY GOV'MENT-a musical ode to Obama

Thursday, December 8, 2011


I've been wondering, if global warming were a large asteroid on a collision course with Earth, destined to destroy our civilization and much of life on the planet, would...

...the United States refuse to sign a treaty designed to avert the impending catastrophe?

...a World Conference on the Asteroid Collision fail to reach consensus on dealing with the problem and decide to put off beginning to work on a solution for eight or nine years? least six serious Republican presidential candidates avow that they did not believe in the science predicting the asteroid's trajectory?

...the United States government declare that it would not participate in working to divert the asteroid because China wasn't doing it either?

...the Secretary-General of the United Nations say that economic problems and political discord meant the "ultimate goal" of a worldwide effort to avoid the asteroid disaster "may be beyond our reach, for now"?

Here's a "newsflash" to world leaders and governments: global warming/climate change IS an asteroid on a collision course with Earth. If we don't find a solution it's not going to magically change its path. Since governments seem determined to ignore and/or deny the existence of the imminent problem, perhaps we need an Occupy Earth movement, and start taking action on our own. Would love to hear ideas about what this would look like.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

The Other Side

When I first met Heather she was elusive and reluctant to be with me. For this I didn't blame her--from an outsider's perspective I didn't seem like a good bet at the time--but I was completely in love and so in the grand tradition of late twentieth century courtship, I made her a mix tape for her birthday.  "Desperate," "Ain't No Cure for Love," "Nothing Compares 2 U," "Something There Is About You," "This Is Hell," were just a few of the songs whose lyrics evinced the depths of my feelings. For the fourth song I sang an a cappella version of Mark Johnson's "Hold of Your Arms." At the end of the first forty-five minutes, following Joan Baez singing "Carrickfergus," I spoke into the mike saying, "Isn't that pretty? There's more on the other side." And there was. Another forty-five minutes worth.

I called the tape "Songs for Heather," but before giving it to Heather I told her sister Lizzy, "I was going to call it 'Songs of my Obsession' but I don't want her to think it's part of the seduction. Which of course it is."

It worked. Heather loved that tape and played it constantly in the early months of our relationship. She came to know those songs better than I did, and they became the soundtrack for our romance. When I visited her parents for the first time, Heather and I sat on the front yard grass at her mother Connie's feet and spontaneously burst into song, looking deeply and playfully into each other's eyes as we sang,
This is hell, this is hell, 
I am sorry to tell you 
it never gets better or worse
but you get used to it after a spell, 
for heaven is hell in reverse 

Connie smiled benevolently at us from her lawn chair and I felt accepted. 

Less than three years later, after a long illness, Connie died. Heather chose to honor her mother in the way of many Native Americans, by cutting her lusciously long hair. This was the start of a tradition whereby Heather would cut her hair and then donate it to Locks of Love, which makes hairpieces for children who've lost their hair due to medical conditions, chemo or radiation therapy. Our friend and hairdresser Angela would later cut the requisite ten inches of tresses, but Heather cut her own hair after her mother's death, and as she did so I played Patti Smith's "Ghost Dance" whose lyric declares in a funereal chant, "We shall live again, we shall live...again...."

Heather believed in reincarnation and I did not. But I put "Ghost Dance" on a loop play to honor Heather's beliefs, and it was a somber, uplifting and fitting backdrop to the ritual she was performing. She stood in our living room in front of a full-length mirror and cut her hair with great and serious intention, while I watched and learned. Heather would further honor her mother later that year when, during a quest to Arizona, she went skydiving--something Connie had always wanted to do, but never got the chance to. I thought it sweet that Heather provided Connie with a posthumous vicarious experience.
Click here, press play,  scroll to song #20 for "Hold of Your Arms"

Heather wanted me to see the truth of reincarnation and I wanted her to see that life was more complex than that. It was one of our few ongoing "arguments." On Heather's side of the debate was her sense-memory/feeling of having been here before, and on my side was the belief in the inextricability of "me" and "my body"--so when my body goes, therefore go I. Yes, I acknowledged to Heather that there is spirit, but spirit taking the form of matter, and it is our supreme gift to be able to inhabit the world in this way for a brief time. That our presence here is temporary is a good and natural could we otherwise truly appreciate it?

Ah, I was oh-so-rational in my views, but a part of me had niggling doubts. You see, when I was younger I believed that one day I would meet my one true love, with whom I'd been together in a prior existence. I spent a great deal of my youth thinking about meeting this soulmate; the feelings I had at that time are no better expressed than in this song I wrote called "Two Halves of One."

somewhere once a seashell was home for a clam
it died the shells split and drifted away
leaving you where you are
and me where I am
living lives separate in Rome and Cathay

oo-ooo-o-oo-ooo o-ooo-o-oo-ooo

from seashell to tree leaf
from tree leaf to sand
from reptile to mammal
from mammal to man

then when I saw you
you smiled at me
an eon of waiting upon circumstance
we both caught a glimpse of our destiny
rewarded so fully by getting the chance

oo-ooo-o-oo-ooo o-ooo-o-oo-ooo

sea shell baking under the sun
you and me making two halves of one

Ignore for a moment the goofy seashell/clam metaphor and imagine that all those oo-ooo's are eerily portentous, then focus on me--Mr. Logic--writing about multiple reincarnations, culminating in the grand reunion in human form. The song was no passing fancy, no mere poetic notion of was literal wish and belief. I also spent time drawing pictures of what this woman looked like--I suppose I always thought it would be a woman, though my sexuality was initially and exclusively tracked towards males--each and every one of those doodled drawings look like Heather...the long straight hair, the thin body, the ineffable aura. I was waiting/searching for her my whole life.

There is tremendous irony to this sequence: first I believed in the destined meeting of souls who belonged together...then it happened--I met Heather! I don't believe it. I obviously need to think more deeply on this subject. Or maybe less thinking and more feeling. Heather might like that.

When she was home for hospice, probably about a week from death, Heather and I were alone in the Zen Room. Sitting up in her hospital bed, a small, somewhat sly smile suddenly appeared on her face. "There's more on the other side," she said, quoting me from the mix tape, but also stating her belief in reincarnation. There was certitude in her voice, beyond any surety she'd ever conveyed.

I laughed softly and nodded my head, amazed at her strength of mind and sense of humor.

"Say it," she directed me. She wanted to hear me say those words that had graced her ears each time she got ready to flip that cassette tape, and she wanted me to come over to her side of the debate, to believe with her, and maybe, just maybe, we'd get to be together again.

"There's more on the other side," I said.

There is, of course, more on the other side, it just may not be in the form we're familiar with. Certainly if the first law of thermodynamics is true, and energy can neither be created nor destroyed, then SOMETHING must happen to the life force. Whether it has anything to do with the thing we call ourselves is an open question, whose answer, no matter how firmly steeped one is in science, must come from a position of belief, as there is no data available from the other side. Okay, Heather, I'll think about this some more. I plan to explore it in in some fashion (probably humorously, as is my wont) in a novel called The Chasing God Game, which I intend to write once I finish Saga of the Freaks--which is your novel, honey, the one you completely inspired that wouldn't exist without you. As I write Saga I think about you constantly, wonder what you would think, hope that you are pleased with the results. Perhaps the fact that I speak to the dead, write for the dead, seek your approval, means that without knowing it, I've already come over to the other side of our last disagreement.

We are the tears that fall from your eyes,
Word of your word, cry of your cry.
Two Halves of One?
                            On our stoop, 2009, photo by Angela Taormino
We shall live again, shake out the ghost dance.††

† from "This Is Hell" by Elvis Costello
†† from "Ghost Dance" by Patti Smith

Saturday, May 21, 2011

The Storm

The Storm, 1880
Pierre-Auguste Cot (French, 1837–1883)

(click painting for detailed view)
One of my favorite paintings is The Storm, by Pierre-Auguste Cot, which hangs at the Metropolitan Museum of Art. In the painting a young couple is depicted running in bare feet away from an impending storm. Together they hold a blanket over their heads to protect them from the rain, but the dark-haired, dark-skinned man is insouciant, his hand firmly grasping her waist, his tunic tightly wrapped around his waist, while a horn juts phallically outward. The light-haired woman is dressed in a body-length sheer garment, her pale skin exposed beneath. The woman is gazing upward with trepidation while the man's eyes are set clearly on the woman, with love, lust and a bit of bemusement.

When I first encountered The Storm at the Met my breath was taken away, and a slightly painful feeling arose in my chest...similar to the experience of what is called in The Godfather, "the thunderbolt"—love-at-first-sight. The Storm resonated with me visually and psychically. I found the portrayal of emotion captivating, the clinging sheer garment brilliantly executed, her naked body beneath enticing, and the use of light on the couple in conjunction with the dark background an eery über-reality. I identified strongly with the young man, having gravitated to the role of protector from a very young age, and often finding myself reassuring loved ones that things are not quite so dark as they seem. 

A few years back I found a print of The Storm on the street and Heather encouraged me to have it framed. I hung it directly in front of my desk, where the tops of books I've written touch the bottom of the frame, as if attempting to siphon inspiration. Interestingly, the young daughter of a friend who saw the print in our apartment asked if it was a picture of Heather and me. I chuckled, because I don't think the two figures resemble us except in the broadest sense—dark and light, male and female, and curly hair versus flowing. Perhaps the young girl picked up on something about our relationship, and saw it limned in oil on canvas. 

Two months into her final struggle against leukemia, when things weren't looking so well, Heather asked me, "Am I going to make it, Vinny?" I looked at her, smiled and reassured, "You're going to make it." I wasn't as sure of my words as I seemed, but it was my role to be optimistic. I thought it wouldn't serve her to voice my doubts. In retrospect I wish I could have uttered something closer to the truth, and that she would have been able to hear it with equanimity. But this is asking too much of her. She was brave enough, fought enough, gave enough. So in that moment we stayed within our roles: Heather worried and I minimized. She was as vulnerable as the young woman in The Storm; I as ostensibly strong as the young man.

Now as I look at this painting tears come to my eyes. The smile has been wiped off my face...the danger was real, and I didn't fully see it. The storm rolled in and I couldn't protect her...I failed in my role...none of us can truly have that kind of influence over people or events...we are at the mercy of randomness and free will...chaos and design. Before her illness I walked through life with the attitude of the young man. I thought Heather's anxiety toward the future immature, but in truth she was always ahead of me, more developed, realistic. Was I a fool to see only my love for her?  

When I first brought the print of The Storm to our home, Heather had not seen the original, and we planned to view it at our next visit to the Met. This is one of the many things that we never got to do. Her sister Lizzy is also an ardent admirer of this painting, and we now plan to go to the Met together to see Cot's masterpiece; in such fashion we will bring Heather there with us, and we will study it through our eyes and her spirit, and no doubt contemplate the many storms that surround us all.

The Storm, as it hangs in our apartment

Springtime, by Pierre-Auguste Cot, 1873
same couple, different vibe

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Refuge and Remembrance: Saying Goodbye to One Feather

Originally published in the Destiny Star (“The Wyrd Voice of
Faerie Camp Destiny”
) Spring 2011 issue

By JoyBoy, aka Vincent Collazo

The first few days after my beloved One Feather died of leukemia this past August, I had friends and family staying and visiting with me. Then I decided I needed to be alone in our home for more intensive grieving. A week of this proved a bit more than I could handle, and I desperately needed to be with people again. I thought of going to Destiny for Labor Day Weekend with a few faerie friends, to fulfill two of One Feather’s last requests: to spread some of her ashes on the land and hang, somewhere near the kitchen, a poster of paintings of faeries that she’d designed. When I saw there was a Virgo gatherette scheduled for that weekend, which was being promoted as a low-key affair, I thought it might be best not to bring my heavy grieving energy to Destiny at that time.

One Feather at Faerie Fashion Show, Destiny 2008
However, when Bambi emailed to let me know that that weekend they’d be planting the cherry tree my sister and brother-in-law were donating to the land to serve as a living memorial to One Feather, I knew that I had to be there. Besides, I now reminded myself, sanctuary is there for when you need it, not on a schedule. Certainly the Virgo gatherette would be able to accommodate me and my grief.

Captain Moonlight, Wally and I were the first to arrive on the land. It was such a gorgeous day I suggested we immediately go to the brook. I wasn’t prepared for the torrent of emotion this would evince—One Feather and I had spent so many delicious hours soaking up the phenomenal beauty of that place, most often staying until the sun was low in the sky. The Captain held me as I sobbed while Wally held space.

I received much love and healing from that long weekend at Destiny. The gathering unfolded wonderfully, and I was very grateful for the “normalcy” of daily faerie magic. Support came in so many ways—it was especially meaningful to speak with a few faeries who’d also gone through the ordeal of losing a partner to an untimely death. I literally cried myself to sleep in my tent and no one complained, though my wailing was at times fairly loud. I felt safe to do this, felt the energy of others surrounding me in the dark, holding me, comforting me.

On Sunday we drove the cherry tree from the kitchen to the lower meadow near the brook, which someone had suggested as a planting site, and which resonated with me as the right choice. A hole was dug and we discussed and decided the best way to plant and protect the tree. Once it was safely in the ground and watered, about a dozen of us circled around the tree and spoke about One Feather. Orange had posted on Lucy his memory of One Feather at a fire circle, singing one of her favorite songs, “American Tune” by Paul Simon. I invited others to join in as Orange and I sang it in One Feather’s honor. One part seemed most appropriate:

And I dreamed I was dying
I dreamed that my soul rose unexpectedly
And looking back down at me
Smiled reassuringly

The group then processed to the brook, taking turns spreading One Feather’s ashes along the way. When we arrived we sat on rocks and grass; a few more people spoke, but mostly we were silent. One by one, and two by two faeries drifted away. This ritual was very much like One Feather: unpretentious, deceptively uncomplicated, quiet and powerful.

I returned from the gathering with a clear head, knowing that I needed to re-engage with life, even as I continued the grieving process. Never had the value of faerie sanctuary been more brilliantly clear or personally important than it was that weekend. While any trip I make to Destiny will forever evoke memories of One Feather’s life and death and the time spent with her there, it will also bring back this restorative weekend and the transformative gifts I received. I remain grateful not only to the thirty or so faeries who were present, but to all who have made Destiny a shining reality.